“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.” — Lucille Ball

Have you ever felt like you’re running in circles in your dating life?

Picture a deer trapped in an enclosure, frantically searching for a way out, only to exhaust itself and accept its fate. This often mirrors what I see in women navigating the dating world.

Many women hopefully create online profiles, swipe right and left, and go on dates, only to feel discouraged by inappropriate messages and disappointments.

They complain to friends, reinforcing the belief that “there are no good ones left out there.” Eventually, they resign themselves to the notion that they’re “unlucky in love,” destined to be single forever.

Thankfully, it doesn’t have to be this way…

The wrong way to date

“The best way to predict your future is to create it.” — Abraham Lincoln

This cycle is all too common because most people date for the wrong reasons and don’t have an effective strategy.

Many people (both men & women) date out of loneliness or fear of being alone, believing that finding someone will fill their void. But lonely, unhappy people typically attract others who are equally lonely and unhappy, which isn’t a solid foundation for a healthy relationship.

And most people date with a lack of clarity and skill. They are lacking in self-esteem and rush into relationships. They hope to find someone good, while secretly doubting they will. They dislike the dating process, go too fast, and settle for someone who seems “nice enough.”

And then when things don’t work out, they repeat the cycle, all the while hoping for a different outcome.

A better way to find love

“Your life does not get better by chance; it gets better by change.” — Jim Rohn

As a love & empowerment coach for single women, I often recommend taking a break from dating—a “dating detox.” This might sound counterintuitive, but it’s the best and fastest way to regroup and get better results.

Here’s what a dating detox requires:

Healing: Spend time processing and releasing negative emotions from past relationships. Avoiding these feelings only adds to your emotional baggage, making it harder to establish a healthy future relationship. If you don’t resolve your pain and anger, you will attract someone with a similar level of wounding.

Recalibrating: Focus on you. Discover what you love about yourself and what truly brings you joy. Build a life centered around your happiness so that when you return to dating, you’re looking to share that joy, not to find someone to “make” you happy.

Realigning: Get clear on what you want in a partner. Shift your beliefs to understand that you deserve love and can find it. Focusing on what you want (rather than what you don’t want) will help you attract the right partner.

Remember, we don’t get what we want in life; we get what we believe. If you don’t shift your beliefs, you’ll find yourself stuck in a cycle of unfulfilling relationships.…not because that’s all that’s out there, but because it’s what you’re currently energetically aligned with.

Take inspired action

“Healing takes time, and asking for help is a courageous step.” — Mariska Hargitay

If you’ve been struggling to find love and keep attracting the wrong types of partners, I encourage you to stop dating for a while. Heal your past wounds, recalibrate your energy, and realign with what you truly desire.

Need help regrouping and getting better results in love? Join me for my enlightening Heartbreak to Soulmate training. In this exclusive free training, you’ll learn how to heal, rediscover your worth, and attract the love you deserve.

Don’t wait any longer to take inspired action…your soulmate is out there, and it’s time to prepare for their arrival.

xo Karen